In one of those “is-this-really-happening-in-my–life” moments, the Katie Couric show called me last month after reading one of my Baby Bullet articles, “When Mom’s the breadwinner and Dad’s the Breadmaker.” I checked my messages to hear, “Hi, my name is Jessica with the Katie Couric Show. I hope I’ve reached the right Maia…” Shocked, I called her back to learn that they were doing a piece on stay-at-home dads and the dynamic between them and their wives. The 30-minute interview included questions like, “What kind of reaction do you get from people when you tell them that you’re husband stays home with the children?” or “If you had to do it all over, would you do the same thing?”
The conversation was actually very thought-provoking on so many levels. I said things to Jessica that I didn’t even realize; like how I only see the end result of what our daughter learned that day when my husband gets to experience the entire process from the beginning. I envy the fact that my husband gets to be the teacher, and there is perhaps a little bit of guilt that I cannot be the one to provide that.
But when she asked, “Would you have done it differently?” the answer was most definitely “no.” For our family, this was the best dynamic. It’s not right, it’s not wrong, it just works. There are sacrifices that have to be made and there are things I wish I could be a part of as a working parent, but the gifts my husband gives to our children are precious. I will always be thankful to him for that.
The dynamic of dads at home seems to be a hot topic of conversation. What kind of reaction does it spark in you?